What should you do when you disagree with someone more powerful than you? It may be tempting to say nothing, but consider the risks (say, a project could be derailed, or you could lose the team’s trust) and then realistically weigh them against the potential consequences of taking action. Before you share your thoughts, think about what the powerful person cares about — it may be the credibility of their team or getting a project done on time. When you do speak up, connect your disagreement to a higher, shared purpose. It’s smart to give the powerful person “psychological safety” by asking permission, as in, “I know we seem to be moving toward a first-quarter commitment here. I have reasons to think that won’t work. I’d like to lay out my reasoning. Would that be OK?” Watch your language carefully. Avoid any “judgment words,” such as “short-sighted,” “foolish,” or “hasty” — stick to the facts. Show respect while maintaining your own self-respect.
Adapted from "How to Disagree with Someone More Powerful than You," by Amy Gallo
